Saturday, February 9, 2008

My 3 Valentines

My husband and I just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary (sorry no pictures, we weren't married during the digital days). Because we just had anniversary (Feb 7), we don't put much emphasis on Valentine's Day.

We do celebrate the day with our three kids. As parents we want to lavish our kids with love. Even though we get to show our kids everyday we love them, it's fun to have a day dedicated to it. If you've never heard of The Five Love Languages check this book out by Dr. Gary Chapman. He has several books including one specific to children and teenagers. I think we've identified 2 out of three's love languages. Carter loves presents - giving and receiving, his love language is gifts. Calla's love language is time. Spending time with her shows she is special. We don't know Joely's yet, it will be fun discovering her love language as she grows older.

The dilemma for me as a parent is how to be fair but still show each child individually they are loved in their personal love language. Luckily, it doesn't matter the cost of the gift. Carter is happy with anything (for now). So buying each kid a little something can fit the budget. And time for Calla can be spent with the whole family and still make her feel valued. This year she and I are going out to get our hair done (surprise, the stylist was totally free that night!), so chatting in the car will be time well spent. Joely will get one on one that day with mom because her big sibs are in school all day.

Hope you all enjoy your Valentine's Day too!

5 comments:

Simply Wired Custom Jewelry said...

Hey there...I hope you enjoy your Valentine's Day celebration. Also...happy belated anniversary, and happy belated birthday to you!

Shell Mitchell said...

Congrats! Happy Valentine's Day!

The Wildfire: Gifts and Decor said...

Yes indeed, happy belated anniversary! I'm curious about the 5 love languages. What are the 5? (I know I'm cheating... just bought a book this weekend and I try to limit myself, haha)

Doodlesprouts said...

Let's see...should I help you cheat?

1.Words of Affirmation
2.Quality Time
3.Receiving Gifts
4.Acts of Service
5.Physical Touch

Enjoy the book!
Anna

mommasquirrel said...

Sounds like a wonderful Book ~ thank you for sharing :) Happy Anniversary/Birthday/Valentine's Day!!!